Growing up I continuously struggled with my weight, self-image and self-esteem. At the time I couldn’t articulate what I was craving so I used food to feel the void, when all along I was longing to take charge of my body and my life. Back then I didn’t realize that my deteriorating self-esteem was affecting every aspect of my life- from my weight, relationships, career potential to my finances (or lack thereof).
When I start working with new clients the biggest challenge I have is getting them to shift their mindsets. It’s not easy to get someone to realize that their weight is the result of what’s going on internally, especially when she’s dead set on believing that it’s the fault of those 50 extra pounds she’s been struggling with. My point is something caused you to gain the 50 pounds in the first place.
However, initially when trying to prove this point it often turns into one of those “what comes first the chicken or the egg” type of philosophical debates between the two of us. Nonetheless they eventually come to understand that in order to end their struggle with weight they must first focus on creating and increasing their self-esteem, self-confidence and self-love from the inside. Trust me, when you change your live your body will follow.
Today I am going to share with you some of my top tips for raising your self-esteem (an inner work with far-reaching benefits). I have used these same techniques to help change my life as well as the lives of my clients. Despite how simple they may appear practicing these simple steps will help you start to feel more deserving and worthy. If you think you haven’t got the time or maybe you believe you are just too busy then think again. Many of these will only take a few minutes of your time and can be done when you are in the shower or perhaps brushing your teeth in the morning.
1) Smile at yourself each morning in the mirror. Make sure it’s a big Kool-Aid smile! You are wonderful so give yourself some praise.
2) Write a list of things that you like about yourself and your positive qualities. This could be the fact that you are loving, compassionate, creative, or the fact that you are great at making your spouse’s toes curl in bed. Make sure you write down at least twenty. Remember, if are kind and loving to yourself, people will be kind and loving to you. If you abuse yourself with harsh words, then watch out, you may just be inviting a bully into your life.
3) Write an affirmation and say it to yourself (at least ten times) throughout the day if you can. For example: ‘My self-esteem is growing every day’ or ‘I am a beautiful, valuable and loveable woman who deserves the very best.’
4) Quit beating yourself up for not being perfect and stop comparing yourself to others. Remind yourself that there will always be someone who can do something better than you and people who have more than you and some people who have less. Either way you’re blessed as well as one of God’s original designs. Comparing yourself to others will NEVER make you feel good about yourself.
5) Replace the negative people or emotional vampires that surround your life, the only purpose they serve is to make you feel bad about yourself and will lower your self-esteem. Instead surround yourself with positive people who are capable of loving, understanding and supporting you on your life’s journey.
6) Each night before you go to bed write down five to ten things you are grateful. This could be as simple as getting to work on time, reconnecting with an old friend or being able to spend quality time with your mate.
7) Be true to yourself. Make sure you are living your own life and not by someone else’s agenda. If you feel nervous about standing up for yourself then make stepping into your personal power a priority. It’s next to impossible to develop self-esteem if you choose to sit on the sidelines and not push yourself to take on risks and new challenges.
I’ve found the quickest and simplest way to turn these practices into a lifestyle is to assign one to each day of the week and as most experts will agree thirty days of consistent action creates a habit.
Just remember you are capable of increasing your self-esteem with just a little bit of effort. Get Ready. Set. Grow…You deserve it!