Finding a partner to be intimate with for a single woman can sometimes be a stressful situation and even downright scary at times. Where does a woman begin to seek out that special man to share her goodies with? Some may say it depends on what you’re looking for, a one night stand, a friend with benefits, a love slave, midnight booty call or maybe even a meaningful relationship. Yes, I know that there are several other “situations” a woman might be looking for but I just wanted to name a few. And to paraphrase a line from the Wizard of Oz, it also depends on whether you feel like being a “good girl” or a “bad girl”. Of course they were speaking of witches in the Wizard of Oz but you get my point.

Finding a suitable sexual partner can often become a chore, especially if you have a specific height, build, style and other criteria that you’re looking for. The search for a little satisfaction (well, maybe not so little) is somewhat demanding and can actually take the “joy” out of sex if you let it. You are so worn out and tired from trying to find a sexual partner that when it comes down to it you’re too exhausted to even enjoy it. Or maybe the problem is that it’s just not all that you had expected it would be. Ladies you know you can’t believe the hype. When a man tells you he’s going to love you down “all night” make sure you ask him how many hours, minutes or seconds are in his definition of all night. You don’t want to find yourself in a situation where you’re saying “Dang, I could have had a V8”.

Yeah I know there’s always B.O.B. (battery operated boyfriend) but Bob can’t flip you, smack it and rub it down like a big, strong man can. Let’s be real about it. I wonder occasionally if men realize yet that we, women, actually enjoy sex as much as they do? Sometimes I really wonder this, especially when you’re standing so close together that the masculine scent of his cologne has you feeling weak in the knees. You begin to imagine what it would feel like to have his strong arms wrapped around you, squeezing you until you’re breathless. You’ve already decided in your mind that you want this man that’s standing in front of you at this very moment, looking and smelling oh so good, to rip off your black lace panties with his teeth and send waves of pleasure through your body while you wrap your legs around him like a snake. You play that scene over and over again in your head until you feel as if you’re about to pass out, but then the unthinkable happens, and he says something that just totally turns you off and you have to walk away.

How many times has a man talked himself out of having sex with you? Really, how many? I can think of several for me right off the bat. And I know I’m not alone. It’s happened to other women as well. Fellas, just know that there are times when you need to let your actions speak much louder than your words. And whatever you do, don’t let your mouth talk your body out of having some great, uninhibited, mind blowing sex. Trust me, your mouth has more important things it could be doing and it will thank you for it afterwards. And so will the woman that you’re with.