It’s a brand new year and all around us people are making brand new starts. Every first of the year we feel as if the slate has been wiped clean and there is a chance for new beginnings. Some people are planning to make career changes, maybe go back to school or finally make a budget plan that they will stick to for more than one month. We all have things that we’d like to change or improve on. For some people that includes their love life.
Relationships take work even under the best of circumstances. Sometimes they last and the love continues to grow stronger with each passing year. But for some, it doesn’t always have a Fairy Tale ending. For whatever the reason may be you know that, in the words of Boyz II Men, “You’ve come to the end of the road”. It can be a very hard decision to make when you have to decide whether to stay and try to stick it out or just kiss and say goodbye.
There are some who try to make things work for the sake of the children even though neither party is happy. Sometimes that reasoning can back fire and the children wind up unhappy and feeling somehow that it’s their fault when they see that their parents are constantly arguing and not getting along. Even if you don’t argue in front of the children, depending on their age, they can sense when things aren’t right and it can affect them emotionally. So that’s not always a good reason to stay in an unhealthy relationship.
Even if there are no children involved, breaking up is so very hard to do. I mean you’ve opened up your heart and your life to this person and no matter how you may feel about them now, at one point you did have positive emotional feelings towards them. I’ve heard some people say that their feelings just faded away over time or they “grew apart”. Jobs or careers led them down different paths. Also as you mature your interests change and you may not be as compatible as a couple as you were in previous years. Of course there are others who have more toxic relationships and desperation motivates them to want to leave, especially if it involves verbal or physical abuse, alcoholism, drugs … etc. When faced with these types of situations it is still hard to break up but for different reasons, which could include fear for your well being or even your life in some cases. Though you know it would be in your best interest to leave you may be hesitant to make that first step.
This is a new year. A clean slate, so whatever your particular reason may be for wanting and/or needing to go your separate ways, no matter how hard it may be for you to admit it, you know that you’ve come to the end of the road. Let it go and move on. If it makes you feel better, then celebrate your new beginning by having a party. Break out the hats and noise makers; the works. But first and foremost, in this New Year, make YOU happy.
Happy New You!!!
Photo credit: The End by Kriss Szkurlatowski
Valerie Davis is an Award Winning Poet who discovered at an early age that writing was her true passion. St. Louis, Mo. is her hometown and where she avidly studied creative writing at the Creative Arts and Expression Laboratory (C.A.E.L.) with Shirley LeFlore.Valerie now resides in Tampa, FL. and is currently writing her first novel.