There are so many beautiful woman that are a part of the plus sized and curvy community. We make up 67% of the U.S. population which in fact makes us the MAJORITY not the MINORITY. We come from all walks of life models, medical professionals, wives, lawyers, directors, C.E.O.’S etc but at the end of the day to some people none of that means a thing, you are just an overweight person and anything beyond that holds no meaning.
As some of you guys know I am located in Las Vegas, Nevada and cover many events between here and Los Angeles. People consider me to be the resident “party girl” covering anything from artist performances, model castings, music festivals and everything in between. With that said I would like to inform you all of the horrifying experience that I was put through at a nightclub here in Las Vegas.
Tuesday July 23rd, 2013 was supposed to be a great day for me. Not one of my regular party nights at the club because I had 2 of my friends come visit me from out of state and we were going to see our favorite Dj/producer group Major Lazer at 1-OAK nightclub located inside of the Mirage Hotel and Casino. We had planned this trip for about a month getting our costumes, making signs and decorating our accessories. The day starts off well my friend and I did some last minute shopping at the local mall and gogo stores looking for the perfect finishing touches for our ensembles because the theme for the costume party was Kung Foo/ Ninja as we wait for my third friends flight to arrive. We all meet up get ready, take pictures of our outfits and were just super excited to see our group perform. We head downstairs to go to the nightclub and this is when the trouble begins.
We arrived around 9:45 – 10:00 pm with 2 of my friends as instructed by our promoter and was denied entry multiple times with the claims that we were not on guestlist. At first I just took it in stride and said maybe there was confusion or a mis-communication that caused this to happen, UNTIL I overheard 1 promoter and 1 security “whisper” to my friend that in fact we were on the guestlist but
“They aren’t going to let you in as long as your with HER”
This her that they were speaking of was me. So I then told my friends that if they were not going to let them in due to the fact that I am overweight then I would not go and they could go in and enjoy their night. They would not stay without me so we decided to then go to a different line with different staff with the hopes that he/she would help us gain entrance to the nightclub. Another road block, the 2nd employee appeared to be a security guard but I am not sure as to what his position was. I walked up first alone and before I could get anything out of my mouth he says “ Umm I don’t think I can get you in over here but maybe if you go and umm talk to one of the guys in the grey suits they might be able to help you” I said ok. I told my friends what they said and we decided to contact the promoter to see if maybe there was a mix up and that maybe it wasn’t what it seemed to be. Both promoters confirmed that we were all on guestlist and that we should get back in line without any problems. We then proceeded to get back into the same line and this time my friends went ahead of me, they were then greeted with the same guards but I was a few paces behind them and he said AGAIN, “I told you not with her” then at that point I could not take this cruel treatment any longer and I quickly walked away from them crying. Why should I be treated so rudely and inhumane at a public establishment to the point of crying ?
As I walked away 2 young ladies that are employees stopped me and asked me what happened and offered to give me a hug, I proceeded to tell them what happened to me and their own employee stated to me:
“Oh yea they are jerks they do that all the time, They only want the hot girls in the club, It’s really messed up”.
Sounds like a A&F moment right? After they calmed me down and I stopped crying long enough to collect myself I said there is no way that they are going to get away with doing this to me. I was then instructed to the Manager, I can’t remember his name and I told him my situation. He then told me I’m sorry I don’t know what I can do for you, then tears started to fall again. He then said hold on and for me not to make a scene, then walked away. I went to look for my friends and they told me that the promoters said if I want to get in I can go buy a ticket and they could go in on guestlist. My friend offered to buy tickets for all of us so we could go in together. I told them no, If this is how this place is going to treat people I don’t want to go in there. As they hugged me and told me that they were sorry the staff was being so rude to me, the manager then walked up behind me and gave me 3 (three) tickets to get in. He then walked us up to the front of the line and said “Here” and walked away.
WHY ARE HUMAN BEINGS BEING TREATED LIKE THIS ? I literally fought tooth and nail to get in because it was for my favorite group, if it would have been for ANY one else there would be nothing here to talk about because I would have just left when I got disrespected the first time. Since I have come home and had time to think about how to handle this I have been getting so many responses about this same type of thing happening to other woman of size. It breaks my heart to hear the stories that I have heard over the past 24 hours about how the nightclub industry is very blatantly displaying size discrimination. A friend of mine brought up the fact that “Night club is allowed to let people in based on “beauty” that’s essentially what they do.” OK I get it everyone’s perception of what is beautiful is not that same. I GET IT. But if that is the case the employees at 1-OAK should have been notified by their employer that there is a way to “Not let the fat girls in” without embarrassing us and talking with the PEOPLE WE CAME WITH about how “I am” the reason they are not being allowed in. This has upset me greatly and caused total embarrassment for me . If this has ever happened to you, please speak up about it. It is not ok for people to get away with treating us like this. Let our voices be heard !
In the end I guess free entry will fix the assassination attempt of my self esteem, yea right.
"What we long for is free, and what we stand for is to be." +COOKiE VALENTiNE+ Part time party girl and full time line stepper. Vegas is where I call home. I have a heart for music and an eye for fashion and would love to hear from you. See something cute, hear something juicy... send it to me at Jazzlyn@curvymagazine.com