Spring is on its way somewhere and it is going to feel so good! I find myself in a place this year where a lot of new and good things are emerging. Last spring I was in a very different place. I was depressed, stressed, not living a healthy lifestyle and I had gained a lot of weight. It was hard to balance work, personal, passion and there was no time for me. It’s hard to see sometimes how much our work life spills over into our personal life often times leaving us trading precious moments like time with family or self-improvement for paid time working on someone else’s goal.
In 2012, I went through my first Corporate Merger. If you have ever gone through one or been affected by one, you know they are difficult and come with tough changes. For the first time in my career I had found that my career was hurting me more than it was adding quality to my life. In November 2013, we were a year into the merger and I finally broke down from all of the stress of balancing my life. I was under a lot of pressure at work and I wanted to quit so bad. Of course, I wanted to be able to feed my family and have a sense of accomplishment but the stress was overwhelming. Trying to balance it all became impossible. I realized I could no longer live a double life anymore. I had to let go of something’s and take hold of some other circumstances in my life like my own health.
By day, I was the ambitious career woman who quadrupled her salary in ten years by the time I was 30. I was well-liked, admired, and talented in my field. I am sure I could have had a long fulfilling career ahead of me that would of eventually led to Executive Leadership if I were to further my education and play my cards right. I was good at navigating the politics of Corporate.
By night, I was the happy wife and mom who loved being with her kids, loved being involved in the community, enjoyed church activities, volunteering and writing. I often came home and looked in the mirror after a days work and struggled to see me anymore. It was like I had transformed into a whole other person in the day. I went home one day after a tough day at work and told my husband I was resigning from my position. Looking back I am still shocked at the amount of courage on my part to step back and re-prioritize what was important to me.
This spring, I will go into it in a brand new role. I join the entrepreneurial community with my own business. I greatly enjoy the people I get to connect with. Being my own boss also allows me to manage my own schedule to be able to do things like go to the gym, spend time with my kids and husband, volunteer and do something for me that I personally enjoy which is to be a writer!I feel very proud of myself for taking the step I did now that I have seen some significant improvements in life. I know it’s going to have it’s hard days too but it’s my vision and my passion.
Springtime has always symbolized a time of renewed life and rebirth to me. I really feel like a new me has emerged. What are some of the changes you have made in your life last year and so far this year? A new job? A new healthier you? A new brave you doing something you always wanted to do? If you find yourself happy with where you are and who you are then I think that is great too- keep going!
I close with this: You don’t have to go to the extreme I did to find happiness and feel better inside and out. That was a choice I had to make for myself. However, If you could do one thing that really made you happy or would give you great joy regardless of money, what would it be? Whatever it is, strive for a little piece of it at a time if you have to. Fight for every moment of happiness you can get. It will make you more effective in your life, your job, and the people you serve without regard to whether you are living up to standards of others. It won’t matter as long as you are being who you are, doing what you love, and have what you love. I look forward to continuing to stop along this journey and smell the roses even more. As a writer, I am glad I have readers like you to come along on that journey with me and I with you. Enjoy the debut of Spring wherever you are, it’s going to be beautiful!
Ulunda Baker is a writer, poet, and CEO of UBsmart, Inc, Raised in St. Petersburg, FL she has great passion for helping people, business, and communities. To learn more about her Follow her @UlundaBaker on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn. She recently through writing for Curvy has become empowered to be the beautiful woman on the outside that she has always felt she was within regardless of her size. She rocks a 2x fearlessly!